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In the Hollywood “Woman’s Picture,” Abortion Is Never An Option


As a counterpart to her ongoing analysis of the proliferation of misogynist sex-is-icky comedy, Dana Stevens makes an important point about the contemporary romantic comedy as part of a review of the poorly-received I Don’t Know How She Does It:

In an unintentionally disturbing subplot, Kate’s assistant Momo, a single, career-focused woman in her mid-20s who’s sworn never to have children, accidentally finds herself pregnant. After Momo mumbles her intention to “take care of it,” Kate clasps her by the shoulders and, eyes glassy with maternal zeal, essentially bullies her into having the baby. Not that I expect a character in a mainstream Hollywood movie to seriously consider, let alone go through with, an abortion—that would probably require a Supreme Court injunction at this point—but the movie’s unquestioning embrace of Kate’s pro-life proselytization felt somehow creepy. Couldn’t they at least have a conversation? (In the book, a much older character, Kate’s best friend Candy, finally decides to continue with an unplanned pregnancy after the two friends engage in a frankly ambivalent discussion: “I’m getting rid of it.” “Fine.” “What?” “Nothing.”) I Don’t Know How She Does It purports to be about the difficult choices of modern motherhood, but it’s too prim and cautious a movie to dip a pedicured toe into the murky waters of real choice.

Obviously,the larger problem here is that young women in romantic comedies virtually never have abortions in situations in which many of them would. The problem isn’t any individual decision so much as the general trend.

But, at least as Stevens describes it, in this movie it seems particularly irritating even in itself because it’s so gratuitous. This isn’t a case like Juno or Knocked Up where if a young woman chooses to have an abortion there’s no movie. The anti-choice protagonist apparently isn’t in the novel the movie was adapted from. Leaving aside the movie’s apparent sympathy for the lead character’s behavior, the conflation of loving one’s own children and assuming that other women should always choose to bear a child doesn’t seem like the likely value system of an educated Boston professional woman. And the idea that an intelligent, self-assured professional woman would make such a fundamental life (and potentially career) choice based on a single incident of bullying-without-argument seems even less plausible. That this writing comes from one of Hollywood’s most prominent writers of films directed at women is particularly depressing.

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  • R. Porrofatto

    I’ve yet to see a commercial for an over-the-counter pregnancy test that shows people expressing paroxysms of joy at anything but a positive result. I don’t have any data, but I’d suspect that a not insignificant number of consumers purchasing such tests are hoping not to be pregnant — some desperately so — yet the manufacturers can’t even bring themselves to market to them. The day we see one of those ads is when we might expect allegedly “pro-choice” Hollywood to portray not having a baby as one of the legitimate choices involved (or, for that matter, portraying women or couples who choose not to have children as anything other than eccentric or unfortunate).

    • DivGuy

      Do you remember this SNL sketch?


      I’m pretty sure it was Amy Poehler’s first season on the show, coming from UCB, and this was the sketch where it became obvious she was gonna be a big star.

      • R. Porrofatto

        Perfect. This is exactly what I meant, only funny. Figures that it will only ever be satire.

    • Abby Spice

      To be fair, you never see ads for rum where people end up dancing with people they hate and then passing out on the bathroom floor covered in vomit, but that’s what’s really likely to happen if you get that cozy with the Captain.

      I’m not sure what I find most disturbing: the unlikely views ascribed to SJP’s character, the apparently easy acquiescence of Momo (?!), the lack of real discussion given to the matter, or the absurdly disjointed cast of this film.* From a Young Feminist point of view, the fact that Momo goes from not wanting children to being bullied into having one is alarming; I know it’s hard to stand up to the boss (although, what kind of boss wants you to have a baby?), but I thought we were getting the message through about controlling your own body.

      *Among others: Sarah Jessica Parker, Pierce Brosnan, Greg Kinnear, Christina Hendricks, Kelsey Grammer, Seth Meyers (SNL), Olivia Munn (The Daily Show), Jane Curtin, Busy Phillips (Dawson’s Creek, Cougar Town), Sarah Shahi (The L Word), and Jessica Szohr (Gossip Girl) I HAVE NO IDEA WHO THE TARGET AUDIENCE IS HERE.

      • Rarely Posts

        On this point, I’d prefer if Hollywood and television did a better job portraying alcohol use. Most depictions seem to show alcohol use as either completely fun, or mildly embarrassing but with no long term consequences, or complete and total lushes. Of course, a substantial number of people abuse alcohol and hurt themselves without falling into those categories.

        Also, for a movie where abortion actually is mentioned by the potentially pregnant woman’s best friend, see Stigmata. It actually was a comforting reaction, where her friend specifically said: “You’ve got options” which struck me as a good way of responding. It doesn’t prejudge the options, but it also doesn’t cut off the conversation.

        • I don’t know about your point re alcohol. Dudley Moore’s Arthur was a despicable child-man, and nobody wants to look like W.C. Fields.

          • Speak for yourself about not wanting to look like W.C. Fields.

          • Eric Jaffa

            Dudley Moore’s Arthur is the likeable hero of “Arthur.” He’s not despicable.

            • Grace

              in whose world is the Dudley Moore character lovable?
              there may have been a time when being an immature drunk was considered attractive — but not recently. he is profoundly icky.

              • Ed

                there may have been a time when being an immature drunk was considered attractive — but not recently. he is profoundly icky.

                From Aristophanes’ time (and probably before) until recently the funny drunk was a comedy staple. Moore’s Arthur belongs in that tradition. He gives an appealing performance in a very funny movie (RIP writer- director Steve Gordon, dead too soon). Times had already begun to change when the sequel, admittedly a dreadful movie, came out about seven years later.

                While you’re waggling a censorious finger reproachfully at old movies, don’t forget those lushes Nick and Nora.

                • Bill Murray

                  and Foster Brooks built a career on being the lovable drunk

      • sbgypsy

        To be fair, you never see ads for rum where people end up dancing with people they hate and then passing out on the bathroom floor covered in vomit, but that’s what’s really likely to happen if you get that cozy with the Captain

        On the other hand, I just last night watched a movie, “It’s Complicated” where the main character drank lots of wine then followed it with cocktails, danced all night, and ended up “praying to St John” over and over…
        (if you can get through the first half hour of the film, it’s hilarious)

    • Dan

      I expect there are messages aimed at people who don’t want a baby built in to those ads, even if the “heroes” are excited to be pregnant.

    • KadeKo

      Didn’t CR once call out the marketing of a pregnancy test marketed at women who wanted to become pregnant, with ads full of baby-goo-gooness (and an age-appropriate male who didn’t run off)?

      I think it was called “Conceive” or somesuch. You doesn’t has to be Don Draper to forget trying to sell it at the CVS next to a college.

    • UserGoogol

      I don’t know if we’d really expect it. The first rule of marketing is to associate your product with good feelings. Being pregnant when you want to pregnant is more upbeat than being not pregnant when you want to be not pregnant, even if not wanting to be pregnant is more common in the real world. With the former, you have expectation and then excitement, with the other you have fear and then relief. Marketers like to accentuate the positive when they can.

      Someone who is concerned about being pregnant right now isn’t really the target audience of ads. They’re going to just run out and buy the product. The goal is to gradually build up a positive brand image so that when people do go into the store, they buy one brand instead of another.

    • sleepyirv

      I would assume pregnancy tests are aimed at women happy at being pregnant is that their best repeat shoppers are women trying to get pregnant. Those unhappy with the results aren’t likely to be in the situation to need the test often.

    • InfamousQBert

      not to contradict the larger point being made, but i’ve noticed, recently, that most pregnancy test ads are distinctly unclear as to WHY the woman in the shot is smiling. the ones i’ve seen never show you the test results – just the satisfied customer. i know it’s not much, but i do think it’s a step in the right direction.

  • Marek
  • Good women don’t get abortions. Duh!

    • Malaclypse

      Good women would never need to.

      • Of course. Also, sex is icky.

        • DrDick

          Good women never have sex. Of course how they get pregnant and give birth to all those righteous Talibangelical babies remains a holy mystery.

  • Rob

    Way back in 1985 an episode of Spenser For Hire featured a major character (Spenser’s girlfriend) actually going through with an abortion. That’s the only time I remember seeing that on TV; usually the woman either has the baby or has a miscarriage.

    • bay of arizona

      Fast Times at Ridgemont Hight had an abortion arc. It really does seem we have gone backwards.

      Its funny how when public opinion favored abortion access in the 90s, reactionaries won; and now that public opinion is less favorable, reactionaries still win.

      • bay of arizona

        I remember a recent episode of Bones that had one of the characters saying, “I know that you’ll keep this baby” when she was hedging and I assumed that he was supposed to be a psychic or something. It was strange and condescending, as if to say, ‘I know you are worried now, but you will eventually come to the correct decision.’

        The excuse for BC ads is usually the awkward topic, but these are the same stations that air ED meds constantly. I have only ever seen a tv ad for bc in the bay area, which is guess should not be surprising.

        • Karate Bearfighter

          I used to see ads for Yaz all the time here in the semi-rural heartland. I think the larger issue is that the market for BC is dominated by generic drugs.

      • Ed

        Fast Times at Ridgemont Hight had an abortion arc. It really does seem we have gone backwards.

        True. The abortion story in Ridgemont High is also notable for the matter-of-factness of its handling. The teenager played by Jennifer Jason Leigh is made pregnant by her second lover, not her first, and there is no handwringing over the abortion – it would be ridiculous for her to have a baby in her situation, and nobody involved imagines suggesting otherwise. See “Juno” for a striking contrast.

        Yes, if Juno doesn’t have the baby there’s no story. But the choice of premise and the manner of presentation says something in itself.

        • mark f

          To be fair, Juno’s mind was changed by the sort of “While we respect your choice, we’re legally obligated to inform you that you’re actually murdering a real live baby” literature that Jennifer Jason Leigh’s character wouldn’t have had to look at.

          • Ed

            As treated in the movie it wouldn’t matter what Jason Leigh’s character was made to look at – she’s having the abortion, and the reasons are so obvious that they don’t need stating or debate. In other words, there’s no “dilemma” as is now required these days. Even the Dana Stevens review refers to the “murky waters of real choice” when in fact sometimes the water, and the choice, are clear enough.

          • witless chum

            That’s Juno’s excuse, but I tend to think we’re supposed to see it as her being contrarian and rebellious for its own sake as much as OMG fetus has fingernails. She’s pretty happy being publicly freakish.

            • witless chum

              Actually she gets the literature from a girl she knows who’s protesting outside the clinic. She’s already looking down on the clinic worker for being uncool and weird in the wrong ways.

        • Anonymous

          Interestingly, there’s a also an abortion in The Anniversary Party (um spoiler alert, if you haven’t seen it), where Jennifer Jason Leigh and Phoebe Cates play fictionalized versions of themselves who have been best friends for 20 years (apparently the actresses really are best friends in real life, and I believe they became friends initially after Fast Times). Leigh’s character and her husband have been trying to have a baby, but then she panics and secretly has an abortion because she actually doesn’t want a baby. When he eventually finds out it precipitates a nasty fight where he screams at her about how she killed their child and what a horrible person she is. So, not a very sympathetic light, I guess.

    • ralphdibny

      Six Feet Under is the only show I can think of where a character actually went through with an abortion, and if memory serves, the show emphasized that her decision was a poor one.

      Contrast that with the much more typical network TV narrative: the very special episode in which teen girl gets pregnant after having sex for the first time, learns a valuable lesson about the dangers of sex, decides to have the baby, then falls down the stairs (little known fact: one of the signs of teenage pregnancy is extreme clumsiness), loses the baby, and we never mention it again.

      • Six Feet Under is the only show I can think of where a character actually went through with an abortion, and if memory serves, the show emphasized that her decision was a poor one.

        Even worse, IIRC, it did so via an unspeakably atrocious dream sequence (but I repeat myself.)

        • I actually kind of liked the dream sequences on Northern Exposure. But then I have a real soft spot for that show generally.

        • Robert Farley

          Not quite correct; the dream sequence was very bad (actually two anti-abortion dream sequences, one for Claire in which she speak with Lili Taylor holding the aborted baby, and one for Nate in which he endures Catholic guilt for all the abortions that he’s “caused”), but the show never expressed any real doubt that Claire’s decision was the right one. It also didn’t show her agonizing in any way about what was right for her; she knew immediately that she was going to get an abortion.

          • Robert Farley

            And to add just a bit to that…

            There’s nothing particularly wrong with showing a Catholic character feeling a certain degree of guilt about an abortion(s). The problem with the 6′ Under sequences was that a) Nate never demonstrated in any other context that Catholicism was at all relevant to his life, and b) 6′ Under played fast and loose with the “rules” of dream sequences. Whereas the Sopranos kept fairly consistent to the rule that dream sequences were mostly about Tony’s subconscious mind working through the issues that his conscious mind couldn’t, 6′ Under played both ways, with the sequences (and the dead characters in visions) often revealing or representing some objective truth apart from the psychological perspective of the character. Thus the problematic of having Claire see her healthy, smiling aborted baby, and Nate see the dozens of children that he begat/had killed.

      • Glenn

        And now on True Blood, Alan Ball couldn’t even have Arlene abort her DEMON BABY. Of course, that would have ruined the subplot, but it’s been so sucky anyway who cares.

      • wsn

        Friday Night Lights season 4.

      • KadeKo

        A House actually had our antihero doing the honors of telling a middle schooler that in New Jersey the doctor isn’t made to tell the girl’s parents about it.

        She was “in trouble” but he didn’t get all hysterical and get her in (parental) trouble.

        The procedure was performed, and she didn’t suffer, and wasn’t even judged by strangers about it.

        • Too, there was the date rape episode where he befriends the victim and gets her to abort her baby.

          But then there’s also the episode where House lobbies for an abortion, is overruled, has to perform in vitro surgery on the fetus, during the course of which the baby grabs hold of House’s finger, thus rearranging House’s priorities and forcing him to go out and impregnate every woman he can.

          So they play both sides of the issue and very strongly.

      • elm

        Everwood had an interesting abortion plot in one episode where a pregnant teenager became a public spectacle as the town debated what she should do, with one of the doctors advocating that abortions are wrong and she shouldn’t do it. In the end, though, that same doctor performed the abortion under the belief that the procedure should be available in a safe environment because otherwise, women would avail themselves of the procedure in an unsafe environment.

    • John

      Friday Night Lights had an abortion plot in the second-to-last season. High school girl had a one night stand with a boy, got pregnant, and then went through with the abortion.

      • themac

        It’s kind of been lost in the sands of time, but the 80s/90s Richard Lewis/Jamie Lee Curtis sitcom Anything But Love had a main character, played by Anne Magnuson, have an abortion. Magnuson wrote about it in Spin a few years later, saying they had to keep the plot fairly quiet so the network wouldn’t freak out. I don’t think it became that big a deal, mostly because no one watched the show.

        • Malaclypse

          a main character, played by Anne Magnuson,

          And yes, that was this Ann Magnuson.

      • Robert Farley

        Yup. And they do a pretty good job of demonstrating the absurdity of Texas abortion regulation, not to mention the insanity of anti-choice protesters.

        • witless chum

          Yup, though I’d honestly have preferred it if they’d just played it as girl has abortion and she and nice boy have complicated feelings about it. The controversy was certainly well-played, but it kinda played a little pat. Of course, we agree with whatever Tammy did, because she’s the most beloved and level-headed character in existence.

          The way I’m remembering, they played it like Tammy was a little surprised to be advising a girl about an abortion? Which seems insanely unrealistic for a guidance counselor. Or am I making that up?

    • Rob

      And then there’s Maude

      Which if anyone alive (and you know fully aware) during the time can explain to me how we went from having openly liberal, issue driven sitcoms like All in The Family, Maude, The Jeffersons, and MASH to having craptastic fluffy stuff like Differen’ Strokes and The Facts of Life dominating ratings I’d love to hear it.

      • Walt

        I would have blamed it on the election of Reagan, but the shows you mentioned started in 78/79.

        • Incontinentia Buttocks

          The last year of the Carter presidency was pretty damn bad (e.g. the beginnings of the wave of deregulation and military buildup that are frequently associated with Reaganism).

          Not that that has anything to do with The Facts of Life.

        • I would have blamed it on the election of Reagan, but the shows you mentioned started in 78/79.

          Well then clearly those shows caused the election of Reagan.

      • Norman Lear quit TV in 1978.

      • Anonymous

        Thought those were all running at the same time, but maybe I’m too young. To be honest, why would abortion be such a major issue when we’ve got so many forms of preventative birth control available? Discounting rapes, what is the major issue bar the question of ending a human life? As modern women, we should have more knowledge of our bodies than ever. Perhaps that needs to be the focus, so that this very questionable termination of life ends.

    • MAJeff

      There was also one on the Los Angeles series of the Real World (season 2?)

    • Anonymous

      Party of Five had the typical teenager-gets-pregnant, decides to get an abortion, and then has a miscarriage before any action is taken. If I am remembering correctly, I believe the creators said they wanted her to have the abortion, but the network wouldn’t let them. They did at least try to make the plot somewhat honest by having her tell her boyfriend after the fact that if she hadn’t had the miscarriage, she still would have chosen to have the abortion.

      ER had a main character who discussed having an abortion in the past, although it wasn’t depicted on the show.

      And while this isn’t the same as a scripted show or movie, comedian Chelsea Handler regularly makes comments/jokes on her show alluding to the fact that she’s had several abortions in the past (granted, I don’t think she uses the actual word “abortion,” but it’s clear that’s what she’s talking about). I know a lot of people don’t like her, but in this respect, I think it’s pretty great that she can talk about and it’s just not a big deal to her at all. She knows she doesn’t want kids, and that she would be a terrible mother, and she is smart enough to know that having a baby would not be a responsible thing for her to do. And it’s great to see an example of someone for whom having an abortion wasn’t a traumatic, life-altering event, because it really isn’t for many people.

      • elm

        Scrubs also had a character (Jordan) who had an abortion in the past and talks about it often enough that her small child ends up walking around the hospital saying, “My mommy had an abortion” over and over.

        • And of course, there was the one episode where JD knocked up whatserface and they had a go-round about abortion and adoption and the whole shebang

          Errrr, pun not intended.

          • elm

            Yes, but they decided to have the baby, so it doesn’t help all that much to counter the “abortion is never an option” side. (Though, if I remember correctly, abortion was presented as a valid choice, just not one they chose, but I honestly don’t remember that episode enough to be sure.)

            • elm

              But, I do think what this subthread is demonstrating is that Hollywood does seem to present abortion as an option with some regularity, even if there are plenty of (more?) examples where it is dismissed outright or never even considered at all.

      • Abby Spice

        If we’re talking about past abortions, Evelyn Baker Lang had an abortion when she was in law school and still got confirmed as chief justice on The West Wing.

  • DrDick

    This is all the fault of those liberal Hollywood elitists!

  • Rob

    So her “fame” rests on the success on of one movie based on an incredibly popular book? I guess somehow 27 Dresses did OK. But that is a ton of schlock and her together with Cameron Crowe for “We Bought a Zoo” might end up being one of the most mawkish things ever made.

    • Hmm, and I think it’s been a couple years since I’ve done a “Jesus H. Christ is Cameron Crowe ever overrated” post. This might be the excuse I need!

      • mark f

        A search shows only a few sideswipes in posts on other topics.

        Show me the money!

        • Incontinentia Buttocks

          He had me at “Hmm.”

        • Jesus Haploid Christ, that was a fucking overrated film. Just incredibly tedious.

          • Incontinentia Buttocks

            Indeed. However, compared to Elizabethtown, it’s practically Citizen Kane.

            • John

              Does liking Almost Famous condemn me forever as having bad taste? Because I like that movie, even if it has its flaws.

              • elm

                I agree: I like Almost Famous and thinks it’s a good, though, as you say, flawed movie.

                But if that’s your best movie since your first (since I like Say Anything… a whole lot, too) and you have Crowe’s reputation, you’re overrated. Jerry Maguire was kind of fun the first time, as I have soft spot for schmaltzy dreck, but was nowhere near as good as its reputation, even with that soft spot. Elizabethtown sucked, Singles was thoroughly mediocre at best, and Vanilla Sky was unwatchable.

                That’s not the resume of a great filmmaker. At best, that’s the resume of a decent filmmaker with both highs and lows.

  • KadeKo

    A DVD set of Family Guy has Lois agreeing to carry a baby for a couple who is then killed in a car crash. It was never broadcast.

    My ex-hippie-chick spouse imagine the writers rebelling as such: “Liberal Hollywood” is cowed into hardly ever writing anything about an abortion decision which doesn’t resemble a Texas-quality abstinence training trauma video. If we can’t write one like in real life, let’s come up with the most un-fooking-realistic abortion decision imaginable.

    • We had it broadcast here in the UK. It was “Partial Terms of Endearment”.

      • KadeKo

        We get to watch BBC News and realize our big media is such crap at this whole journalism thing, whereas you get the “too hot for American TV” things broadcast on your airwaves.

        Now I’m officially jealous!

  • It’s a pity that Vera Drake never found a wider audience. We might finally have had the discussion this nation desperately needs to have about choice.

  • Bill Shatner

    Dirty Dancing had an abortion as an important part of the plot and character development. Of course, it was illegal, went badly, and cast shame on the naive Baby, but it was in the movie.

    • witless chum

      I’d bet whatever you like that little subplot doesn’t get included in the remake.

    • Was the naive Baby shamed? I guess so, at the moment her father was treating the woman for post-abortion complications, but she was later validated for having done the right thing. On balance I’d say that ‘Dirty Dancing’ is pretty pro-choice, since it demonstrates the dangers of back-alley abortions.

      • witless chum

        As I recall, Patrick Swayze is the only one who gets a(n undeserved, cause the rich douchebag got her pregnant) shaming from Jerry Orbach.

        Giving it to him and not the girl in question could either be interpreted as sexism in not holding her responsible for her own choices or just as being nice and not kicking someone while they’re down.

        • mark f

          I have a younger sister and there was a period in which Dirty Dancing was on nonstop after-school rotation in our living room VCR. I’m pretty sure Orbach’s character lets Baby know how disappointed he is in her for getting mixed up with such cretins.

          • Yeah, there is certainly an element of classism, but I think what the Orbach character is really angry about is the fact that Baby asked him for money for an illegal abortion without confiding in him.

            In any event, he does not do what Michelle Bachman would presumably do, which would be to slut-shame the woman who had the procedure, then refuse to treat her because her sepsis was g-d’s will.

            • EmmATX

              Oops, should have refreshed before I posted!

          • EmmATX

            Actually, he was disappointed in her because she lied to him when she borrowed the money for the abortion, and told him it wasn’t for anything illegal. As a kid this really confused me because I didn’t realize abortion had been illegal during the time the movie is set. Of course, he did also engage in class snobbery against the “dance kids”…

            I watched Dirty Dancing constantly as an elementary-schooler, and it remains one of my favorites – I own it on DVD and still watch it once or twice a year…

  • dan

    Most Hollywood films on the subject I’ve seen take the Murphy Brown approach — loudly proclaim that it’s the woman’s choice, but there’s only one choice she ever can make. I’d prefer the inherently pro-life assumption in these films that the only “right” choice is to keep it if these films at least had the courage of their convictions; the lip service to choice usually given is often more annoying than a genuine pro-life position would be.

  • i thought it was pretty obvious that hollywood type movies generally hate women, even if they are made by women. of course, hollywood movies pretty much hate men and pets, too.

    fwiw, fast times at ridgemont high was a pretty equal opportunity movie: both the boys and girls got to make good and bad choices and live with them.

  • Tim

    This is quite a reach, but Det. Lacey (Tyne Daly) of Cagney & Lacey had once had an abortion, before the time frame of the show. She told her older son about what had happened to her when she was quite young and hadn’t even met her future husband yet. I don’t remember the exact plot development that made her tell him; maybe it was something about his going to the Marines or her long-absent father showing up after 20+ years.

  • wengler

    On the other hand, Pregnant at 16 shows us why having a safe and legal right to an abortion is so important.

    • wengler

      And Teen Mom as well. MTV is single-handedly fighting for this right.

  • You are right that abortion should not be option for Hollywood.It is one type of murder to their baby.Also the public will follow these celebrities for abortion.It needs to have strict rules for these cases.

    • Weasel

      Honestly, I’d love to see a movie that actually outright says, “Abortion is the answer.” I’m dead sick of seeing all the peaches and cream fluff that claims having a baby will make your life so stinking perfect. It won’t.

      What I’d really love to see is a film that shows adoption ain’t so great, either. Like maybe have a teenager or young adult discover that their mother put up a kid for adoption and show the actual consequences, that Mommy isn’t as okay with the decision as people thought and the son/daughter feeling angry and betrayed for being lied to for so long. And don’t bother with some feel-good ending where everyone meets the child who was given up and it’s a tear-filled happily ever after because that’s a load of crap and we all know it. Seriously, Hollywood, get hot on that. You need someone to write the script? Call me, because that’s the sort of slag I went through last November and I’m still dealing with the fallout. Trust me, survivor’s guilt sucks big time.

  • bandit

    “doesn’t seem like the likely value system of an educated Boston professional woman. ”

    You’d base that on what?

  • blondie

    Fast Times at Ridgemont High was probably the most realistic portrayal of what happened when a teenage girl (with access to a free clinic) got pregnant. As far as she was concerned, there was no other choice.

    Otherwise, Hollywood’s view of abortion is, for the most part, anything but pro-woman, while wearing the rose-color-est of fuzzy glasses about sweet, sweet babies and how they will impact the lives of people like 15 yr. old parents.

  • Anonymous

    So I doubt anyone will see this, but it seems like something that should be added. While Grey’s Anatomy is pretty ridiculous most of the time, tonight’s episode had one of the most honest portrayals of abortion I think I’ve ever seen. Sandra Oh’s character was pregnant but adamantly doesn’t want a baby. Her husband didn’t want her to have an abortion and initially leaves her over it. But instead of having him or others ultimately pressure her to keep it, the opposite happens – another character tells him that if she were to have the baby, she’d never love it as much as she loves surgery, and the guilt from resenting her child would kill her. She also told him that she knew what it was like to grow up as the unwanted child her mother resented, and how wrong it would be to pressure someone into bringing a child into the world under those circumstances. Oh’s character, although distressed by the situation*, never wavers and goes through with the abortion, and her husband goes with her in support.

    *Though I think it was more distress over the possibility that going through with it would destroy her marriage, not over the abortion itself.

    All around, kind of amazing.

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